Thursday, August 23, 2012

Why I Have 2?

This post was inspired by my fellow mummy bloggers who blogged about their decisions to have 1, 2 or 3...

As for me, I had Denise when I was 28; it was 2 years into our marriage. By today's standard, that was considered young... It was not an accident :) We made an informed decision.

It was not the Baby Bonus (there was none for first kid in 2003), not the CDA (as a young couple, we did not have the luxury of saving any extras), not the maternity leave (I only took 2 months), nor was it the reduced maid levy (we did not have a maid then).

We simply wanted kids and felt that it was time to add some excitement to our marriage life. We were very contented with just 1 kid. Denise got easier and easier to handle as she grew up. We had no plans to have another one.....until....

JX and myself both came from a family of 2. We were both the younger one. I appreciated that when there was a family decision to be made, especially one that concerned our parents, I had my sister to share the burden with. Whether financial or mental responsibilities, it was good to know that I was not making the decision alone.

This may sound a bit too far now....but during my Dad's funeral, I had a sibling to rotate night shifts with me :) And we had each other when we were going through the loss...

So, Debbie came along 4 years later. It was (again!) not an accident; we planned for her :) We felt that the gap was ideal as Denise would be in P1 when Deb was ready for pre-school. Considering the huge preschool fee, we thought that it would be good to "stagger" the expenses....

Fast forward, Denise would be 9 in December and Deb just turned 5.... Life had been great and I always enjoy watching them play together. During days where we had to stay at home or when we were having our own family time, I was glad that they had each other to play with.

Having a boy or girl was never the concern for me, I simply wanted to give Denise a companion and I thank God that Debbie completed the family :)

So, now the question is.....will I have a third one? Well, never say never.... And if I do have another one, the decision would not depend on whether there was enough Baby Bonus, CDA or any perks that the government is offering.... And accidents :)
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Sandra Tan said...

Didnt have a chance to leave a comment on Thu! Hehe... 2 (erm for now at least) looks to be the magic number. :P

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